If your elementary- or high school-age child has said something like: “I don’t feel like a girl.” “I think I’m a boy.” “Can you use they/them for me?” “I want a different name.” It can stop you in your tracks. You may feel protective. Confused. Afraid of doing the wrong thing. You may wonder whether this is a phase, whether you’re supposed to correct it, or whether affirming it somehow makes it permanent. Maybe you've already responded and are now wondering: Am I doing the ri