Being misgendered can be painful and exhausting. This guide offers 10 practical scripts for responding when someone uses the wrong pronouns—at work, with family, or in daily life. Learn how to set clear boundaries, when to correct or redirect, and why your choice to speak up (or not) is always valid. Expecting respect isn’t asking too much.

A guide for LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent folks to plan ahead, set boundaries, and reclaim the season with intention—not obligation The...

For late-identified queer, neurodivergent, deconstructing humans If you’ve ever looked around your life—your home, your relationship,...

You deserve to be all of who you are—even at work. In many workplaces, professionalism is quietly coded: not too loud, not too soft, not...

Feeling burned out by summer's heat, noise, and social expectations? This post explores sensory overload, internalized productivity shame, and how rest can be a radical act—especially for neurodivergent queer folks.

How to Decide Whether to End Contact with a Friend or Family Member Deciding to go no contact with a friend or family member is a deeply...

Holidays, whether those that get a lot of mainstream fanfare or those that are more a part of lesser-know cultural tradition, can be a...

If you're a trusted insider (friend, family member, or professional in the "helping" professions) to a neurodivergent or LGBTIA+ person...

Sometimes things happen that we were not prepared for. When your world gets rocked, when the structure that you trusted as "how things...

Therapy speak has gotten WAY more mainstream. Maybe the pandemic, or TikTok, or (this is a fun thought) the degradation of...

Guilt is often uncomfortable. We tend to think it means we've done something wrong. Could it help us connect with values & boundaries?

One surprising way to strengthen relationships. I'd like to share with you some insider-info on my life. Are you ready for it? Here it is:...

Techniques for taking effective action in a world chock-full of too many choices Hey Hey Hey, Sometimes I'd like to just not have to make...

Hope you're hanging in there. It's the start of a new year and with that I'm picking back up the practice of sending a regular letter....